Wolf in Sheep Clothing : How do you know if a wolf in sheep's clothing is circling around you?

Wolf in Sheep Clothing

 

Discernment

How do you know if a wolf in sheep's clothing is circling around you? What are the red flags that the guy you are talking to right now is a wolf? What are the signs? What do you do when you suspect you are dealing with a wolf? Most men, Christian and non Christian, are not wolves in sheep's clothing. I don't want every woman reading this article to be completely mistrustful of men, but it is very important to be aware of this. A wolf in sheep's clothing can do a lot of damage to you and the Body of Christ as a whole. Always pray for wisdom and discernment when you find yourself interested in a man. Ask God to reveal quickly hidden motives or agendas that are ungodly. Ask God to help you look into the heart of this man. Observe him. Look for consistencies in his words and actions. Listen closely to the topics and themes of his discussions. Look at him when he is not looking at you. Watch how he interacts with others. Observe his eyes, does he appear genuine and Godly? Does he look at women lustfully? Do you catch him looking at you that way? Does he talk too much about himself, money, or sex? Does he seem insecure and continuously mention his past revenues and accomplishments? Do you see Christ's humility in him? Is he a wounded man, eliciting sympathy from you about his recent divorce or emotional pain from not seeing his children? Is he moving too fast? These are only a few questions you should ask God and yourself. More importantly, when you are secure in your relationship with God, no matter how much you desire a boyfriend or potential mate, you are much less likely to be deceived by a wolf in sheep's clothing. Sometimes the wolf has a lot of money. That's appealing to a woman. Don't let the money deceive you. You can become extremely miserable, broken hearted, and abused, and totally removed from your first love (Christ) with a rich sheep in wolves' clothing. Finances are only one factor in a marriage. You don't want to be unequally yoked to a rich man who eventually abandons you. The wolf has no intention of staying with you. That's not his plan.

The same goes for good looks, smooth talking, sensitivity, and all the qualities you think make a good husband. They are empty and dangerous without Christ. The key factor in any Christian relationship should be the presence of Christ! Focus on learning very quickly where this guy stands with the Lord. Does he pray and have quiet time with the Lord? Does he read his Bible? Does he live what he reads. Does he reflect Christ? A strong Christian man cannot hide his love for God, it comes out all over the place. He is stable and loving. He is secure with himself and Christ no matter what his circumstances. Does
he tell you that he sees you as a strong spiritual woman and depend on you for prayer or teaching? This is bad because he should be getting his support from other Godly men. Watch him over a long period of time. How does he interact in church? He does not have to tell you he loves the Lord, you should see it. Get to know him. He will reveal his heart toward you about everything over time.

Both of you should guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23). Exit the relationship at any slightest hint of lies, trickery, addictions, or immorality. Challenge him if he begins to appear manipulative. Don't be afraid to let go of a relationship that would eventually devastate you. God will bring you the man of your dreams or He will give you the grace to remain single. Don't get attached to his children too soon. Get to know him first. Control the pace of your contact with him. Let God guide you and reveal things each step of the way. Be leary of doing favors before you really know this man. Do not lend him money. Do not let him kiss you or hold your
hand. Watch out for guys that infiltrate the church and remain on the periphery, scouting out the women. Beware of men that don't have or develop strong relationships with Godly men. These loner types are looking for weak, wounded, newborn "sheep" to prey on. Stay close to your circle of mature discerning Christian friends your age. Don't let the wolf in sheep's clothing separate you from the pack of your friends early on. Keep your eyes on the Lord and trust Him. That which is hidden will come to the light. (1 Cor 4:5).

Note: This discernment should not only be for women in regards to men. There are may women wolves out there posing as sheep to lure in their pray as well. So let us all be concerned and keeping our eyes open to make sure that we are accepting relationship from men and women or God that are truly interested in a relation with you that resemble Christ and our marriage to Him.






Nancy Grant

References: Visit this page for more detail on this subject. It is truly a good reading.
http://thechristiancounselor.com/documents/WOLF_000.pdf