“I Got My MATE So I No Longer Need To Persevere Syndrome”

“I Got My MATE So I No Longer Need To Persevere Syndrome”

I have been thinking of this weeks' post for sometime now. I did not want to choose or write about anything that the holy spirit didn’t lead me to write, so I waited for a word. As I was in meditation and prayer this morning, the holy spirit led me to think about how we as Christians begin to loose focus in God after receiving what we have been praying for months if not years. Our need for a mate, financial blessings, healing and etc.

This is not a spiritual attack that only women face in the body of Christ. Men as well has walked away or lost interest in the things of the Lord once they have met and married the “gift” a wife or a husband from God. This is not usually done intentionally. At times, it can go unnoticed for months.  Before you know it, we find ourselves missing church services, fellowship and all the activities that we use to hold dear when we were hungry and thirsty for a mate. Prior to that mate, we would climb mountains to go pray on a distant hill  or sleep in the church over night on our bellies decreeing and declaring. Yet, as soon as we say “I DO” that time with God diminishes. 

I personally have experience this syndrome in my life, but it's what we do when we notice the distance between us and God that matters the most. When we can hear the voice of God calling, seeking for our attention and us responding by acknowledging the call, we have overcome the stronghold. Let's not allow excuses and self reasoning keep us further away from Him. I have come to believe that its not the fall that keeps us down, but its the remaining down that shows our weakness.

God is love, indeed. The love you have for your mate or future mate is priceless. When we are blessed with a mate and/or other blessings in our lives, let's not forget the Lord our God (Deuteronomy 8). We can give our mates the attention, love and affection that he/she needs without loosing the drive and dedication that you had prior to being blessed with your gift(s) from God. I am sure that if your mate is first and foremost “in the spirit” they will understand your walk.  If they are truly believers they will also understand that you are a servant of God and that you must remain faithful to God for your future spiritual needs together.

With this new revelation, I have learned that when we are blessed with a mate, that mate should never become the main and ONLY center of our lives. No matter how deep and head-over heals in love you are with your new sent love, your dedication and commitment to God should supersede that love that you feel for one another. God IS the center and should always remain the center of your relationships. No matter how the wind blows, God is first and should always remain first even after your blessing comes.

Our lives must be as follows for the success of not only our relationship with our mates but our spiritual walk as well:

God

Wife/Husband

Children

Distant Family

Friends

Leisure

Praise God always and with everything you posses and with everyone that are in your lives...

By: The Father, Son and Holy Ghost

Written by: Nancy Bazile,

Wolf in Sheep Clothing : How do you know if a wolf in sheep's clothing is circling around you?

Wolf in Sheep Clothing

 

Discernment

How do you know if a wolf in sheep's clothing is circling around you? What are the red flags that the guy you are talking to right now is a wolf? What are the signs? What do you do when you suspect you are dealing with a wolf? Most men, Christian and non Christian, are not wolves in sheep's clothing. I don't want every woman reading this article to be completely mistrustful of men, but it is very important to be aware of this. A wolf in sheep's clothing can do a lot of damage to you and the Body of Christ as a whole. Always pray for wisdom and discernment when you find yourself interested in a man. Ask God to reveal quickly hidden motives or agendas that are ungodly. Ask God to help you look into the heart of this man. Observe him. Look for consistencies in his words and actions. Listen closely to the topics and themes of his discussions. Look at him when he is not looking at you. Watch how he interacts with others. Observe his eyes, does he appear genuine and Godly? Does he look at women lustfully? Do you catch him looking at you that way? Does he talk too much about himself, money, or sex? Does he seem insecure and continuously mention his past revenues and accomplishments? Do you see Christ's humility in him? Is he a wounded man, eliciting sympathy from you about his recent divorce or emotional pain from not seeing his children? Is he moving too fast? These are only a few questions you should ask God and yourself. More importantly, when you are secure in your relationship with God, no matter how much you desire a boyfriend or potential mate, you are much less likely to be deceived by a wolf in sheep's clothing. Sometimes the wolf has a lot of money. That's appealing to a woman. Don't let the money deceive you. You can become extremely miserable, broken hearted, and abused, and totally removed from your first love (Christ) with a rich sheep in wolves' clothing. Finances are only one factor in a marriage. You don't want to be unequally yoked to a rich man who eventually abandons you. The wolf has no intention of staying with you. That's not his plan.

The same goes for good looks, smooth talking, sensitivity, and all the qualities you think make a good husband. They are empty and dangerous without Christ. The key factor in any Christian relationship should be the presence of Christ! Focus on learning very quickly where this guy stands with the Lord. Does he pray and have quiet time with the Lord? Does he read his Bible? Does he live what he reads. Does he reflect Christ? A strong Christian man cannot hide his love for God, it comes out all over the place. He is stable and loving. He is secure with himself and Christ no matter what his circumstances. Does
he tell you that he sees you as a strong spiritual woman and depend on you for prayer or teaching? This is bad because he should be getting his support from other Godly men. Watch him over a long period of time. How does he interact in church? He does not have to tell you he loves the Lord, you should see it. Get to know him. He will reveal his heart toward you about everything over time.

Both of you should guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23). Exit the relationship at any slightest hint of lies, trickery, addictions, or immorality. Challenge him if he begins to appear manipulative. Don't be afraid to let go of a relationship that would eventually devastate you. God will bring you the man of your dreams or He will give you the grace to remain single. Don't get attached to his children too soon. Get to know him first. Control the pace of your contact with him. Let God guide you and reveal things each step of the way. Be leary of doing favors before you really know this man. Do not lend him money. Do not let him kiss you or hold your
hand. Watch out for guys that infiltrate the church and remain on the periphery, scouting out the women. Beware of men that don't have or develop strong relationships with Godly men. These loner types are looking for weak, wounded, newborn "sheep" to prey on. Stay close to your circle of mature discerning Christian friends your age. Don't let the wolf in sheep's clothing separate you from the pack of your friends early on. Keep your eyes on the Lord and trust Him. That which is hidden will come to the light. (1 Cor 4:5).

Note: This discernment should not only be for women in regards to men. There are may women wolves out there posing as sheep to lure in their pray as well. So let us all be concerned and keeping our eyes open to make sure that we are accepting relationship from men and women or God that are truly interested in a relation with you that resemble Christ and our marriage to Him.






Nancy Grant

References: Visit this page for more detail on this subject. It is truly a good reading.
http://thechristiancounselor.com/documents/WOLF_000.pdf

Divorces In The Body of Christ

Recently, I have been observing the many trials that the body of Christ is enduring. One particular that stands out for me is the rate of divorces that is amongst Christians. Lets look at some fact by Barna Research Group:

	11% of the adult population is currently divorced.
	25% of adults have had at least one divorce during their lifetime.
	Divorce rates among conservative Christians were significantly higher than for other faith groups, and much higher than Atheists and Agnostics experience.

Barna report: Variation in divorce rates among Christian faith groups:

Denomination (in order of decreasing divorce rate)	% who have been divorced
Non-denominational **	34%
Baptists	29%
Mainline Protestants	25%
Mormons	24%
Catholics	21%
Lutherans	21%

Now this number truly has got to change! Apart from the enemy moving like a roaring lion seeking whom he can devour; what are we Christians doing in our marriage that is allowing us to resemble the world's way of doing things?! or as the research group has shown us, the world has been doing better than us.

Let me hear your thoughts on this subject. What can we change in our walk, ways, life and etc that can change this devastating attack amongst us.  After all, a family that prays together, stays together...why aren't we?

by: Nancy Grant

References:
http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm

Becoming A Woman Of Excellence

A woman of excellence Is what I long to be

Filled with your godly wisdom So it is part of me

A woman of integrity No matter what I face Standing up for righteousness And for your saving grace

A woman of destiny Living out your plan Knowing where you'd have me walk Being guided by your hand

A woman of promise Standing on your word Holding on to all the truths While carrying out your work

A woman of compassion For the ones in the dark Those that do not know your love And have darkness in their hearts

A woman that will never Compromise the faith With what the world may offer But will keep the narrow way

A woman who loves Jesus And will only follow Him Gladly to give up the world So His light can shine within

Lord this is my earnest prayer As a daughter by your grace Grow in me these qualities As I walk with you in faith

© By M.S.Lowndes

A Praying Man

As I walked softly in the room his head was bowed down low,

His hands lay idly in his lap, his breathing calm and slow.

I thought that he was sleeping till he opened up his eyes,

He made me want to kiss him when he said, to my surprise...

"Have I told you that I love you? I was telling God right now, Oh, I know He knows already but I told Him anyhow

 "We both think you're something special and I know that He'd agree Nothing bad should ever touch you, not if it were up to me!"

 Prickly goose bumps start to tingle, icy chills run up my spine, And sometimes I have to pinch myself: this prayin' man is mine! And just before we start our meals he always says a prayer, For God to bless the food we eat and keep us in His care. I love it when he reaches out and puts his hand in mine, And speaking low, he thanks the Lord when we go out to dine.

He asks the Lord's protection when we're traveling in the car, For angels to ride with us if we're going very far. I picture one above us, on the sides, the front, behind, Our housetop angel waves goodbye, (but only in my mind).

Girls, you can keep the latest hunk, I'm not a beef-cake fan, Stud muffins leave me unimpressed, give me a prayin' man!

He owns my heart forever 'cause there's nothing stronger than Words of power, words of blessing coming from a prayin' man

 "The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much." (James 5:16 KJV)

Written by: Connie Hinnen Cook

WOG Talk Anthem

PROVERB 31

Sayings of King Lemuel

 The sayings of King Lemuel—an inspired utterance his mother taught him.

 Listen, my son! Listen, son of my womb!
   Listen, my son, the answer to my prayers!  

 Do not spend your strength on women,
   your vigor on those who ruin kings.

  It is not for kings, Lemuel

   it is not for kings to drink wine,
   not for rulers to crave beer,
 lest they drink and forget what has been decreed,
   and deprive all the oppressed of their rights.

Let beer be for those who are perishing,
   wine for those who are in anguish!

Let them drink and forget their poverty
   and remember their misery no more.

 Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves,
   for the rights of all who are destitute.

Speak up and judge fairly;
   defend the rights of the poor and needy.

Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

 A wife of noble character who can find?
   She is worth far more than rubies.
 Her husband has full confidence in her
   and lacks nothing of value.
 She brings him good, not harm,
   all the days of her life.

She selects wool and flax
   and works with eager hands.
 She is like the merchant ships,
   bringing her food from afar.

She gets up while it is still night;
   she provides food for her family
   and portions for her female servants.
 She considers a field and buys it;
   out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
 She sets about her work vigorously;
   her arms are strong for her tasks. 

She sees that her trading is profitable,
   and her lamp does not go out at night.
 In her hand she holds the distaff
   and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
 She opens her arms to the poor
   and extends her hands to the needy.
 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
   for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
 She makes coverings for her bed;
   she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
   where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

She makes linen garments and sells them,
   and supplies the merchants with sashes.

She is clothed with strength and dignity;
   she can laugh at the days to come.
 She speaks with wisdom,
   and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
 She watches over the affairs of her household
   and does not eat the bread of idleness.
 Her children arise and call her blessed;
   her husband also, and he praises her:
 “Many women do noble things,
   but you surpass them all.”
 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
   but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.  

Honor her for all that her hands have done,
   and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

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